Halloween isn’t the only time we dress up in costumes. For most of us anyway it may be the only time we elevate our appearance to a costume. But many of us wear a mask everyday trying to be somebody else.
At home we let our real self out but in public and at work we try to look and act like someone who we would like to be. We’ve all done it especially during our school days. By day we’re this super popular socialite but at home we’re, well our-self.
Is it unhealthy living this duel-personality? There are some shrinks that would say it is then again most would say no it’s not. Like most things it’s dependent on whether we live it to the extreme like a true schizophrenic Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.
The key is a moderation, you need to remain who you are, knowing that your true identity won’t slip away.
Perhaps you’ve heard of the Tiny house movement. It’s where people are downsizing to live within their means living in a space a fraction of the size they’re accustomed to. This is appealing to the millennials and the baby boomer alike. It’s a way of simplifying life returning to a much less complicated time and style of living.
Initially, the movement was almost strictly about changing to mobile living. Now, much of movement is more focused on downsizing and just living the simple life. It’s amazing how we amassed so much stuff over time. Seriously think about it everytime you move there’s more, and it took longer to pull it off. With time we accumulate.
For every person that is not a collector, there are probably ten of us that are. This guy’s van that is pictured I met in the parking lot, he has simplified to under 100 square feet. It’s equipped with solar panels as you can see and the little dome on top has a satellite dish. This is the tiniest house I ever saw but is designed for a single person and is short on some amenities.
The big game is only a matter of hours away. Despite the typical promotions, pomp, and circumstance the interest by fans is minimal. The two teams have the same record, nearly identical statistics so it should prove to be a better game than some in the past. Why the disinterest?
I’ve heard numerous radio personalities making these aforementioned statements about the Super Bowl and one reason they came up with that sounds feasible is the fact that it’s being held in frosty Minnesota. I mean the Pro Bowl was held in rainy Florida this year instead of Hawaii and we’re accustomed to the Super Bowl being played in a warmer climate especially those living in the northern parts of the country.
That may account for a small percentage of the disinterest. I believe this puzzled quandary is the culmination of this entire season. Anyone that has followed the huge controversy this year where many of the millionaire players that are paid to entertain us refused to stand for our National Anthem.
This inconsiderate act by hundreds of players across the league has led to fans burning their season tickets, a huge drop in attendance and of course an enormous drop in viewers on television as well. Our veterans have been thoroughly disgusted by the players’ display (Vets provided their freedom to play the game) as are the fans. The players and the cowardly Commissioner should have picked a different time and place to air their concerns because millions of fans have boycotted your season, the playoffs and the Super Bowl. Congratulations players you have officially elevated the other sports to the top spots once again as the NFL has plummeted to new lows.
Since we are bombarded by social media every day we encounter good news and bad news on a regular basis. Either news can be shocking to us depending on what it is and how important the content is to us. Before the advent of social media, before the internet, we got our news in the paper, TV, a weekly magazine or from a friend or neighbor.
Receiving the news in person has the speaker witnessing the expression of shock on our face. The facial expression exchange can be priceless. How do you stay up-to-date with current events? Am I promoting gossip? Heavens no, that’s typically not trustworthy news anyway. If anything I’m just encouraging a little more human interaction.
Haven’t you seen the videos and commercials of people walking down the street so engrossed in their phone that they walk into a pole? If anything I would encourage more interaction with one another. A really old song may be appropriate here by Dionne Warwick’s What The World Needs Now Is Love.
As a child time moves so slowly that boredom is an everyday affair. Most of us got into mischief because we had nothing else to do. Most of our parents began to find ways to channel our pent-up energy by not only finding things to do but also a list of chores. And it begins.
After our teens and we transform into adults. Not only has boredom vanished but we cannot seem to find enough time in a day to do what needs to be done. Between the interests, we carved out of our time we suddenly have jobs that take up more than a third of our entire day.
Those of us that took to blogging begin to find it difficult to carve out the time to devote to our craft. Not to be mistaken for witchcraft although sometimes that blank screen seems to cast a spell on you. Blogging and writing in general typically require you to carve out your own niche to establish your legacy.
Remember your parents telling you way back when that time speeds up? Now you wish they were wrong as years go by like months. Pink Floyd caught it with the song Time. How are you utilizing your time?
Face it there are certain things we all choose to avoid. This encompasses everything. There are the odd jobs that we wish we didn’t have to do, people that are irritating us trips to the dentist and certain foods. We have an attitude, can we change it?
Personally, my biggest attitude is regarding foods. Why are we allergic to certain things and what foods do we claim to be allergic to in an act of avoidance? For most people, our taste for foods was developed as a child. Why do we have certain dislikes and happen to love other things?
Since it’s a new year do you have any resolutions to change your attitudes? What’s it take to make changes? Courage, determination, and willpower. Sadly, statistics reveal that at least 30 percent of resolutions are abandoned after three weeks. Do you have the courage and fortitude to succeed?
Not only is the Pink Floyd song Comfortably Numb one of their greatest hits it has bridged generations. Could it be because so many people could relate to the lyrics? People cozy up next to the fireplace some with headphones on and rock out to it (especially this time of year). We all tend to favor a cozy or stay within our comfort zone.
Your comfort zone is relative to a given situation. For example, let’s say you decide to test the water and look for a new job. If you stay in your precise field of expertise you are staying in your comfort zone. If you branch into a different area that is outside your experience you are truly venturing out.
Sure there are those that have no problem doing something different but by and large, most people like to stay where they are cozy. Another example is the fact that a majority of folks never relocate out of the state wherein they were born. Even more, never leave the city they grew up in.
Many of your most successful individuals went out on a limb and left their numerous comfort zones to grow. Before you cite examples of the hometown heroes, yes there are plenty of those that have great success in their environment. These are just a couple of the many, many comfort zones we stick to daily.
Have you ever thought perhaps you were comfortably numb?
You may ask yourself what or which inner compass? That’s a good question. When you think about it there are different compasses or direction meters that aid you in your decisionmaking. Perhaps the most important compass that perchance would be better termed an alarm is your moral compass.
These are the moral values that have been instilled in you, or possibly have not in some cases, by your parents and was cultivated by teachers and society in years gone by. These mores, customs, laws, and taboos are the subculture that dictates behaviors. These were very strong in America only forty years ago and were based on Judeo-Christian beliefs, on which this country is based, like treat others as you would have them treat you. “To educate a person in the mind but not in morals is to educate a menace to society.” President Teddy Roosevelt.
Have these principles been compromised or eroded over the past several decades? Not only compromised they have been attacked by other worldviews, some of which place no value on human life, and less value on women.
You have many other compasses that direct your decisions. For example, what influences you in the direction you choose for your vocation? That subject is addressed in my forthcoming book on careers.
Going forward into a new year remember that inner compass that sets your course. Remember the quote from Thomas A. Edison, “What you are will show in what you do.”
Once again the holiday season is upon us. The stores have been decked out in some cases for months already and this year it seems many homes are already set aglow. When you speak of the holidays you are reminded that it’s a time for friends and family with an emphasis on family.
Thanksgiving, actually the day before is the most traveled day of the year but others like Christmas are still on the horizon. As we plot out our trips to see relatives often times around the country we schedule one-way trips to get it done. Depending on the number of relatives and locations we can have a couple or a few one-way flights and/or car rentals.
Round trips are easy in comparison to one-way trips. Airlines typically charge more for one-way flights and car companies always jump at the chance to make more money. In scheduling one-way flights be sure to plan for extra time going through security as the TSA gives out the most pre-checks on round-trips.
Safety is key in your travels and in your journeys be sure to check for your personal possessions as you exit the plane or car as it will be nearly a miracle to find lost phones, wallets and the like later. Have a blessed holiday season and a very Happy New Year!
It’s always a pleasure to see plans that you set in motion to mushroom to full bloom and beyond. There’s a true sense of satisfaction when a plan comes together. In addition, successful people set goals that enable their success. On the flip side, it happens all too often where some misfortune strikes and then mushrooms into a disaster.
I don’t know about you but physical mushrooms don’t appeal to me, they don’t appear to have any flavor. I’m probably in the minority regarding mushrooms but that’s not the point here. The point regarding mushrooms is in the wild you’ll often find a mushroom patch where perhaps a single mushroom spread like weeds. Typically it’s because the setting is just right for the plant to flourish.
Well conceived plans that are thought out in advance have the greatest chance of success. They are like the perfect environment for you to achieve your goals one after the other until you are like those successful celebrities. Rocky used Eye of the Tiger to motivate him to succeed. What helps you to succeed? Until then we will see you on the news.