Contrary to anything you may have ever heard there isn’t a magic elixir for life. Life happens although we can direct our course daily by setting goals and steering our lifeboat on a course we desire. A great many people say they are defined by their livelihood. It’s true a good part of one’s life is committed to their vocation. For example, if you are a doctor not only did you spend extra time with your education and in most people’s eyes that’s how you’re viewed.
There may not be a formula for life but there is a lot you can do if you plan accordingly. So often young people hesitate sometimes for years in deciding what they want to do with their life and suddenly they find themselves in a career that they actually detest. This is not as uncommon as one would think. Check out the “Escalator of life” video.
In past generations a young man didn’t have to think twice about what he was going to do, it was predetermined by his parents to carry on in the family business. Today you still find that sort of thing if your family livelihood was fishing or farming for example but so many others will be charting their course in uncharted waters.
I have a widely varied background which is why I’ve been writing a book on helping others find out they were meant to do. Stay tuned, I will have further details as the process nears completion. We’ll help you to find your purpose, your reason and perhaps hidden desire for living.
As a little kid you’re subjected to your parents taste in music at least that’s how it used to be. Today you see six and seven year old kids with ear buds listening to their own music. Anyway, many of us spent a good part of our youth listening to our parents music. Some of that stays with you but you develop your own taste in music with time. Some of their songs maybe had a catchy rhythm or the lyrics stuck with you to retain it in your memory. A song for me that
had both was My elusive dreams by Tammy Wynette and David Houston (As it notes in the video the scenery was for Carefree Highway-sign is in Phoenix) . For me it represented life’s journey for a family and what I might expect when I grew up. Well, I have dreams that have been elusive such as getting the book published.
I’ve never been very big on Country music since the day I found my own music but this one was and still has special memories. Tammy Wynette was in her 1950’s to 60’s classic form as a housewife as she was in Stand by your Man in this one. She also redid the song with George Jones and many others remade the song but this is the original I remember.
From the time we could form our own thoughts we had dreams and then schemes. Some of us had more schemes than dreams, but how many dreams did any of us hold on to? How many came to fruition? Dreams are what brought about a lot of great things that we take for granted today. For example our modern day computer was really a dream until Steve Jobs and Bill Gates brought us this gift. If it wasn’t for those early science fiction dreamers we may not have hundreds of the things we use everyday and take for granted. Many call us dreamers (holding on to an elusive vision) but we know there’s always a chance our dreams will come true. Don’t stop believing and don’t stop dreaming even if it’s California Dreaming.
This is the question that has perplexed mankind since the dawn of time. It also brings the corresponding questions into mind like how did we originate, who am I and why am I here? Philosophers have struggled with this and offered up their explanations and versions. Actually only you can answer these questions as you are unique in your own way.
“If you can’t figure out your purpose, figure out your passion.” Bishop T. D. Jakes addressed in my upcoming book is a quick answer (excerpt in magazine). Steve Jobs also addresses the fact that you can’t connect the dots looking forward only looking back so you have to trust in something. “There’s no greater gift you can give or receive than to honor your calling. It’s why you were born and how you become truly alive.” Oprah Winfrey.
Michael J Fox said, “I believe a purpose is something for which one is responsible; not just divinely designed.” Perhaps the best advice comes from Martha Beck “If your life is cloudy and you’re far, far off course you may have to go on faith for a while, but eventually you’ll learn that every time you trust your internal navigational system, you end up closer to your right life.” “You change your life by changing your heart.” Max Lucado.
As I look back on those development years when I thought about what do I want to be when I grew up? I had no idea. The question was asked of me in sixth grade when we were required to write an essay and I was the only one that wanted to have my own business. Before high school ended when we all met with guidance counselors for our career choice there was little direction given for my future.
So like so many others I flip flopped majors in college and then changed careers so many times my head was spinning. This is why I’m finishing this book on not only helping the youth of America find what they were meant to do but giving them a glimpse of so many different fields of endeavor that they can feel more comfortable with the choice they make because they were able to get an insider’s view before making the jump.
This is not only invaluable for those starting out in the job market it’s also a great tool for those that thought they made the right choice but are truly unhappy. It will also serve as a reference guide for those that find themselves back on the job market from “downsizing” or as they say now “rightsizing”.
Once you know who you are, what you like, or what you love you can be on your way to vocational bliss. As you go don’t forget to write all concerned. Bonne journée et Au Revoir!
It all began when I worked at a trade in a cabinet-shop. The crew working there were from vary different backgrounds. We had a high school student, a musician people from other trades and even a guy with underworld connections. Most of all I befriended a relative of one of the owners who was a biochemistry professor at a National college until he gave it up because of his principles to work there.
Doc as I called him since he was the only one with a PHD had many philosophical, intellectual discussions with myself and another worker during our lunch hours. It was during this time that I coined the phrase or adage here.
“Why do I bang my head against the wall? Because it feels so good when I stop.” I know it’s simple but it got a lot of laughs over the years and at least for me get a sense of relief during periods of frustration.