Halloween isn’t the only time we dress up in costumes. For most of us anyway it may be the only time we elevate our appearance to a costume. But many of us wear a mask everyday trying to be somebody else.
At home we let our real self out but in public and at work we try to look and act like someone who we would like to be. We’ve all done it especially during our school days. By day we’re this super popular socialite but at home we’re, well our-self.
Is it unhealthy living this duel-personality? There are some shrinks that would say it is then again most would say no it’s not. Like most things it’s dependent on whether we live it to the extreme like a true schizophrenic Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.
The key is a moderation, you need to remain who you are, knowing that your true identity won’t slip away.
Perhaps you’ve heard of the Tiny house movement. It’s where people are downsizing to live within their means living in a space a fraction of the size they’re accustomed to. This is appealing to the millennials and the baby boomer alike. It’s a way of simplifying life returning to a much less complicated time and style of living.
Initially, the movement was almost strictly about changing to mobile living. Now, much of movement is more focused on downsizing and just living the simple life. It’s amazing how we amassed so much stuff over time. Seriously think about it everytime you move there’s more, and it took longer to pull it off. With time we accumulate.
For every person that is not a collector, there are probably ten of us that are. This guy’s van that is pictured I met in the parking lot, he has simplified to under 100 square feet. It’s equipped with solar panels as you can see and the little dome on top has a satellite dish. This is the tiniest house I ever saw but is designed for a single person and is short on some amenities.
As a child time moves so slowly that boredom is an everyday affair. Most of us got into mischief because we had nothing else to do. Most of our parents began to find ways to channel our pent-up energy by not only finding things to do but also a list of chores. And it begins.
After our teens and we transform into adults. Not only has boredom vanished but we cannot seem to find enough time in a day to do what needs to be done. Between the interests, we carved out of our time we suddenly have jobs that take up more than a third of our entire day.
Those of us that took to blogging begin to find it difficult to carve out the time to devote to our craft. Not to be mistaken for witchcraft although sometimes that blank screen seems to cast a spell on you. Blogging and writing in general typically require you to carve out your own niche to establish your legacy.
Remember your parents telling you way back when that time speeds up? Now you wish they were wrong as years go by like months. Pink Floyd caught it with the song Time. How are you utilizing your time?
Face it there are certain things we all choose to avoid. This encompasses everything. There are the odd jobs that we wish we didn’t have to do, people that are irritating us trips to the dentist and certain foods. We have an attitude, can we change it?
Personally, my biggest attitude is regarding foods. Why are we allergic to certain things and what foods do we claim to be allergic to in an act of avoidance? For most people, our taste for foods was developed as a child. Why do we have certain dislikes and happen to love other things?
Since it’s a new year do you have any resolutions to change your attitudes? What’s it take to make changes? Courage, determination, and willpower. Sadly, statistics reveal that at least 30 percent of resolutions are abandoned after three weeks. Do you have the courage and fortitude to succeed?
Not only is the Pink Floyd song Comfortably Numb one of their greatest hits it has bridged generations. Could it be because so many people could relate to the lyrics? People cozy up next to the fireplace some with headphones on and rock out to it (especially this time of year). We all tend to favor a cozy or stay within our comfort zone.
Your comfort zone is relative to a given situation. For example, let’s say you decide to test the water and look for a new job. If you stay in your precise field of expertise you are staying in your comfort zone. If you branch into a different area that is outside your experience you are truly venturing out.
Sure there are those that have no problem doing something different but by and large, most people like to stay where they are cozy. Another example is the fact that a majority of folks never relocate out of the state wherein they were born. Even more, never leave the city they grew up in.
Many of your most successful individuals went out on a limb and left their numerous comfort zones to grow. Before you cite examples of the hometown heroes, yes there are plenty of those that have great success in their environment. These are just a couple of the many, many comfort zones we stick to daily.
Have you ever thought perhaps you were comfortably numb?
You may ask yourself what or which inner compass? That’s a good question. When you think about it there are different compasses or direction meters that aid you in your decisionmaking. Perhaps the most important compass that perchance would be better termed an alarm is your moral compass.
These are the moral values that have been instilled in you, or possibly have not in some cases, by your parents and was cultivated by teachers and society in years gone by. These mores, customs, laws, and taboos are the subculture that dictates behaviors. These were very strong in America only forty years ago and were based on Judeo-Christian beliefs, on which this country is based, like treat others as you would have them treat you. “To educate a person in the mind but not in morals is to educate a menace to society.” President Teddy Roosevelt.
Have these principles been compromised or eroded over the past several decades? Not only compromised they have been attacked by other worldviews, some of which place no value on human life, and less value on women.
You have many other compasses that direct your decisions. For example, what influences you in the direction you choose for your vocation? That subject is addressed in my forthcoming book on careers.
Going forward into a new year remember that inner compass that sets your course. Remember the quote from Thomas A. Edison, “What you are will show in what you do.”
Degrees of involvement. Whew! We have plenty of degrees adding up in Phoenix this year. Yesterday and today it’s been a record-setting, scorching 119 degrees. Times like this we recall all the beautiful 70 degrees outdoor Christmas parties. At the same time, friends and relatives in the Midwest were enduring a 15 below zero stretch with frigid wind chill factors. Thoughts like that are typically an overview or an observation at least on Facebook.
More personal involvements are the associates you work with and friends whom you really empathize with. Deeper still are family and close immediate family. They are the ones that you have known all of your life. They have been through the thick and thin of life, they’re your loved ones.
Everyone goes through thinning of the ranks of loved ones. But really, regardless of your disposition, it draws you closer to the remaining members. My sister who lived in the frozen tundra for most of her life moved to Arizona during the holidays in 2015. Because I had moved out of state or because she resided hours away -I’ve only seen her for a small fraction of my life.
This has been the biggest regret for me because aside from my wife she is the kindest most benevolent soul I have to ever know. Should she have a problem, would I meddle in her life? Not exactly, but I would aid and support her to rise above it. The Hollies said it best in “He ain’t heavy he’s my brother.” In this case, she’s my sister. It’s a long, long road, while we’re on the way to there we should share some time.
As a fan, I’ve laughed a lot over the years at the man who is notorious for comedy. You know who he is kids know him as Santa Claus in the comical Santa Claus movies. Even more of us recall him as “Tim the tool man Taylor” from the TV series “Home Improvements” and/or a host of other movies like “Wild hogs” and “Big trouble”. ABC shocked America with news that their second most watched show Last Man Standing is canceled!
Tim’s latest //platform.twitter.com/widgets.js“>Tweet said, “Stunned and blindsided by the network I called home the past six years.” That being said, the Fox network is working to find a place for the blockbuster comedy show. The show isn’t simply a comedy it features family, moral values, and everything that has been an American heritage. ABC claims the show wasn’t canceled because of political reasons but it seems all too apparently not true. It’s considered the biggest, hit sitcom since “All in the Family.”
Allen’s character Mike Baxter was a staunch conservative along with one daughter stood against the Obama tirade of government overreach etc. Baxter aside from his one daughter had his wife and other two daughters along with a son-in-law that were liberals so the show had it all. The irony was Allen’s prior successful TV series he had three sons whereas here he was surrounded by women. Several of those stars made appearances on this program.
Perhaps things are working out for the best as FOX would seem to be a better home for his conservative brand of comedy. Regarding living in Hollywood on Jimmy Kimmel Allen said, “You gotta be real careful around here, you know. You’ll get beat up if you don’t believe what everybody believes, it’s like ’30s Germany.”
As the voice buzz lightyear alway said, “To infinity and beyond.” As the captain in Galaxy Quest said, “Never give up never surrender.” Real words to live by.
With Easter fast approaching many of us are reminded of one of the earliest denials in history. That would be after Jesus was arrested and the soldiers asked Peter if he knew Christ? He proceeded to deny Jesus not once but three times before the rooster crew; which was prophesied by him who was betrayed. And Christ called Peter the “rock” him whom he would build his church upon. Now that’s the kind of confidence Jesus had that Peter would overcome the shame of his betrayal.
Denial is an everyday thing but being in denial can be a state of mind or refusal to accept something that you may not want to. So many people go through life not realizing that they may be in denial of something unless someone else points it out. The proverbial we’re blind to seeing that something in ourselves.
I think we all are looking to make this a better world. So many of us quick to see the “error in another’s ways” but slow to see it in ourselves. Regardless of where you stand the denial that you may harbor pales in comparison to Peter’s and look how far he went after he came to terms with his error. To a bright future, your walk of life; your brother in arms.
Denial The Daily Post
Why is it that it’s so much easier to criticize than to compliment someone? We’ve learned since we were kids that others, especially bullies received praise for their critique of others. In essence, this has been engrained in us all most of our life because giving compliments required much more thought, work and quite simply we didn’t see the value. Depending on the type of criticism many have been hurtful remarks and only spread negativism on the person and or object in question.
Looking at the results of criticism versus compliments the tearing down of someone is typically destructive while compliments are uplifting with positive results building the person up. Why does it still continue once we reach adulthood? When you think about it one obvious reason is the poor example the media sets with all the negative press. You rarely see or read an uplifting human interest story.
Pessimism abounds while optimism seems only to be found in those individuals that understand it. A positive mental attitude is not only good for the soul it’s also contagious and makes the world a better place. Is it that hard to pay others a compliment? You really don’t have to go out of your way there are opportunities every day. Get on the positive train of thought you’ll be glad you did.
In the business world Zig Ziglar, Tony Robbins and many others capitalized on this concept and built empires. In the spiritual world, the thing that sets believers apart is they have hope. Sometimes hope is all we have. Pay a compliment someone today. Chances are you’ll receive a smile and thank you for your effort and you’ve made the world a better place.